For every action we take there is an internal debate that happens. Before you act, you ask yourself, “Does the benefit of acting outweigh the benefits of not acting?” It’s a simple cost-benefit analysis but most of us are unaware of exactly what constitutes the costs and the benefits.
Because of our head trash, the stories we tell ourselves about why we shouldn’t be successful, the perceived costs of success outweigh the perceived benefits. You might be saying, “Yeah right, I want to be successful more than anything.” But this is your conscious mind talking. Most people want to be successful and work real hard towards that, but only about 3% of our population achieves success, meaning they are wealthy and happy. So, then why are so many people broke and miserable? Judging by the 500 million dollar self-help market, people are consciously taking action toward being successful. Then, why aren’t more people successful, it’s not from lack of work, that’s for sure.
We all have some subconscious clutter that’s causing us to be self-sabotaging, holding ourselves back, driving with one foot on the break. And that’s because of our cost-benefit analysis from our subconscious, that most people are unaware is even going on. We are evaluating our why-to’s and our why-not-to’s. If our why-not-to’s outweigh our why-to’s then we aren’t going to take the best action we could towards a goal.
Most of us are probably not even aware of our why-not-to’s or where they came from, and why they are holding us back. Some of our why-not-to be successful reasons include:
- “It’s going to be too much work, I’d rather spend time with my family and friends.”
- “I don’t want to hurt my spouses’ feelings.”
- “What will my friends and family think of me?”
- “It’s too complicated.”
- “I’m not smart enough.”
But these are just stories we are telling ourselves, they are perceived problems, but they are good reasons to not allow yourself more success.
What if you could get rid of these false stories and instead use your subconscious why-to’s to outweigh your why-not-to’s and take your foot off the break. The reason so many traditional self-help programs don’t work is because the naturals are showing you how-to succeed, but they are unconsciously allowing themselves to succeed already, and they don’t even know it. Human learning goes through four steps:
- Unconscious incompetence
- Conscious incompetence
- Conscious competence
- Unconscious competence
The naturals are already unconsciously competent at allowing themselves to have abundance. So, now you can think about your subconscious why-not-to’s and be consciously competent about them…
…and get rid of them, with a really simple system of sending empowering queries to your subconscious, working with yourself, taking your foot off the break, and giving yourself permission to succeed. It’s so simple but so profound. Just ask yourself, “Why do I give myself permission to succeed?”